Self-Concept: The Secret to Changing WHO You Are
Dr. Rick Hanson and I explore how self-concept, the invisible architecture of who we are, shapes our lives. We discuss how identity can become a cage, the unconscious beliefs we have about who we are, and how loosening those beliefs might be the key to lasting change.
Rick and I talk about the science of psychological flexibility, how to challenge limiting self-beliefs, and why a little more “don’t-know mind” can go a long way. We share insights from Carl Rogers, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Buddhist philosophy, and focus on practical ways to update your self-concept without losing who you are.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:40: What is self-concept?
8:25: Stories, frameworks, and expectations
13:30: ‘I’ vs. ‘me’, and feeling misunderstood
16:55: Carl Rogers’ framework of self-concept and congruence
24:20: Common tropes for defending identity
30:45: Applying principles of biological evolution to your sense of self
34:50: Resistance to change, and misguided beliefs
40:35: Don’t-know mind, affirmation, and taking in the good
47:30: The Buddhist conception of the self
53:40: Living in direct experience, and basic trust
56:50: Recap
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